Who Is Autumn Seave?
Usually when I start writing somewhere new or join a new social network I introduce myself. I realized today that I haven’t done that here! I don’t know how many people will care enough to read and find out who I am, but I figured a good old introduction post might be due.
So, who is Autumn Seave?
Autumn Seave Is My Main Pen Name
Yes, I use a pen name. But this pen name is no less me than the name I was given at birth. I’ve been using this name for over 20 years now, so Autumn Seave is very much me.
I started using this pseudonym when I started publishing erotica and when I started my very first web site, Inky Blue Allusions. It’s hard to believe that I have been owned that site for so long! It’s gone through a lot of different variations but now I use it as a home base to help people find me where ever I am. You can find links to my books, my Medium posts, my social media accounts, and more. You can even buy me a cup of coffee if you’d like to show your support for all that I write!
So, even though Autumn Seave is not my given name, it is the real me. Nothing is made up. All the things I write about here on Medium are real experiences. The emotions are real. The people I talk about are real. Autumn Seave is definitely me.
I’m An Erotica and Sex Writer
Writing about sex and writing dirty stories is nothing new to me. I’ve been doing it even longer than this identity was born. I wrote my first sex story when I was about 19 or 20 for a boyfriend that lived out of town. He liked it so much that I tried it again several years later.
And then I discovered the internet and learned that there were so many people out there that would want to read my stories. That’s around the time that Inky Blue Allusions came to be.
Around 2012, I learned that I could actually make money by selling my stories on Amazon. That was a game changer. The realization that I could actually earn money writing stories that I loved and that made me and other people happy — well, I was ready to roll!
At one time I had more than 50 short stories on Amazon. I’ve decided to take a different route though and I took them down to kind of re-brand with longer stories. I’m working on building my catalog again. Some of my short stories will reappear as novellas. Some of them will be used with other pen names. And some I’ll publish for free in various places. They’ll all get published again at some point.
You can find my published stories as Alicia Stone here (more on that to come).
Anyway, I love writing about sex and writing erotic stories because I think sex is not a topic that gets talked about often enough. Considering the fact that most of the planet has sex and that it makes people so happy (or so unhappy sometimes), I don’t understand why people don’t talk about sex more. So, I write about it and talk about it a lot (and don’t think my co-workers don’t notice that I talk about it a lot!).
Who is Alicia Stone?
Alicia Stone is the pen name that I use to publish my lesbian romances. I find that it’s better to keep your genres seperate when writing ebooks because not everyone that reads my lesbian stories wants to read M/F romance. And vice versa. I am fairly open about it though, so if you’re interests do cross over, you’re welcome to read from either pen name.
I’m A Family Woman
Some people don’t stop and think about the sex writer as being a real person with a family, but most of us are. That includes me.
I live in a small community in the middle of Canada. It’s where I grew up. In fact, the house I bought last year is about 3 or 4 blocks from where I grew up. It’s really strange to be living here again, but I do love it. I’m in town, but barely — my house sits just at the edge of town. This gives me the space of a big back yard and only one neighbor that is really close.
My mom, sister, son, and nieces and nephew all live in the same community and I see them all fairly regularly. We have family dinners and BBQ together and eat and laugh and sometimes we all get a little drunk together, too.
My daughter and granddaughter live in the city, about 5 hours away. It’s a bit of a drive but I go to see them as often as possible. My granddaughter’s father (who is not with my daughter anymore) lives in the same community I do and we often see each other and I consider him family as well.
I was married for 13 years. My husband passed away and remains in my heart always. He was my biggest supporter in pretty much everything, but especially when it came to my writing. He would often proofread for me and no matter what topic I chose to write on, he was on board. I’ve written about him several times here.
Since my husband died, I have felt that I was lucky to have had that kind of love in my life. Not everyone gets what we had. So, I’m not seeking to replace that. But, he did make me promise that I would live my life and do whatever I could do to be happy. So, I know he would approve of the direction my life is taking.
I don’t feel like it is right for me to expect any man to live up to him. I don’t know if it would be possible. And I certainly can’t replace him.
But I do want to have love in my life and I do want sexual relationships. This is the first time in my life that I’ve really been able to explore my sexuality without any boundaries.
I first identified as solo polyamorous. I had never heard of the term solo polyamorous until this past year. But when I read about it and did some research — I knew that was what I was. At that time anyway.
I have since met a man that I want to build a future with. He’s sweet and kind and just the kind of Daddy I need. He supports my choices and my lifestyle.
You can learn more about how I defined my solo poly life here:
This is all the little stuff that make me who I am.
- I love rain.
- Fall is my favorite season.
- I’m perimenopausal.
- I might have ADHD — I’m going to start the process of getting assessed because the majority of the time my brain is like a little kids ball pit and it’s filled with toddlers and I’ve recently come to realize that most people’s brains don’t quite work like that.
- I’ve always wanted to make a living as writer. I did support myself as a freelance writer for many years but I want to work less for clients and more for myself. That being said, I am taking on clients for freelance work and you can find out about my services on my professional site, Intimate Words. If I could find a balance between writing for clients, writing fiction, and writing here that would be idea.
- I lived in a city for 20 years so part of me is definitely city girl. I love the patios, the concerts, the clubs, and the whole city life.
- But I’m also a country girl. I love that I have a yard with minimal neighbors. I love that the lake is a short drive away and I can take my kayak there and have fun either by myself or with family. I love that I can get to hiking trails easily.
- Ideally, I’d love to live in the city part-time and the country part-time.
- I really, really want to travel. I’ve never been able to do much of that, so any time I can drive somewhere and stay in a hotel or an AirBnB for a few nights is a treat. But I’d like to take some big trips, too. Trips across Canada, into the States, and even a few overseas trips. Eventually, I’m going to find a way to do it all.
- I love to read. I read fiction, non-fiction, trashy books and literature, self-help and educational. I love them all. I’m currently reading Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex — And The Truths They Reveal by Lux Alptraum and I’m really enjoying it. I keep reading and yelling, “Yes!” as my dog looks at me like I’m talking to her. I read ebooks and physical books and my TBR list is huge.
- I love music. Bruce Springsteen holds a special place in my heart because he is the musician that my husband and I both loved. But I also love classic hard rock, pop (both older stuff from the 80s and up to current music), country, and jazz. The only kind of music that I just can’t deal with is symphony. It puts me to sleep.
- I have a bit of a planner infatuation. I love planners and notebooks and I have spent way too much money on them in the past couple years. It got really bad when I discovered Happy Planners. Because I’m not very artistic (the closest I get to artistic is lettering) I like that Happy Planners are already pretty and set up to be attractive. And I love that there are a million different sticker books that you can buy and use to decorate and make your planner unique. I also use the stickers in my journal. Some might consider stickers to be childish but…what can I say? They make me happy.
So, is there anything else you’d like to know? If you got this far I applaud and thank you! Feel free to leave me a comment and ask, and I’ll update the post and let you know when I have done so.
If you want to get to know me better, follow me on Twitter. I’m there throughout the day and I like to share other people’s posts as well as my own. I also share some personal stuff and random thoughts. In fact, if you write sexy stuff here on Medium, send me a DM and ask to be on the Sexy Medium Writers Twitter List! You might even be there already!
**Disclosure: some of the links in this post are Amazon affiliate links, which means I’ll make a little money if you click on them and buy something.